Self described relationship expert, Sheila Gregoire posed this question: “Would you rather your daughter married a technical virgin who pushed past the boundaries of his girlfriends routinely (which is sexual assault), or someone who had had consensual sex in the past but had always honored the girls he was with? (If you had to choose of course)”

Well, Sheila, if those are the only two options, I would rather my daughter remain unmarried. Neither of those guys is good husband material.

Also, Sheila, if my son has to choose between a technical virgin who pushed the boundaries of her boyfriends (which is apparently sexual assault), and a slut who believes her consent makes promiscuity ‘honorable,’ I would prefer my son keep waiting for a decent woman. He deserves better.

While your pithy phrase, ‘Virginity is not a synonym for sexual integrity,’ is correct— it is not an antonym either. Thankfully, God drew up the guidelines for purity so we won’t be sloshed around by the cultural tides. Suggesting that Christians should ‘get away from virginity based sexual ethics’ is (and this is as nicely as I can put it) utterly bonkers.

Sheila, I’m sure your ‘Gospel of Do What Feels Good’ is selling tons of books and earning you a bunch of fans. Poisonous fruit looks good and is often popular. I hope you stop tearing families to pieces for profit but in case you don’t; I’m warning my sons and daughters to stay away from you.

(1 Thessalonians 4:3) It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.