I’m reading some complaints from a “marriage expert” about how Christian boys aren’t told it’s wrong to mistreat girls. The Marriage Expert insists that the church has taught girls it’s their fault when boys abuse them. The Marriage Expert wrote a whole book telling the church that girls deserve to be treated better.

I would provide links but the Marriage Expert has a much bigger platform than me and the internet is not a place where the best ideas win debates. When hundreds of shrill ‘Christian’ feminists show up on my page to minister by shaming, ridiculing, and condemning me, people who lack discernment might conclude that I’m wrong. All it takes to be a ‘Marriage Expert’ is a handful deranged followers willing to attack anyone who contradicts you. “Gosh! Look how many people are mad at John! He obviously did something inappropriate!”

The Marriage Expert uses a lot of anecdotal evidence to make the case that the Church is teeming with women haters. It’s not hard to find crackpot misogynists in the ranks of the church because crackpot misogynists are EVERYWHERE. At the same time, you can find anecdotal evidence that the Church is filled with men who love their sisters in Christ.

Men like me, for instance.

My wife and I raised two daughters. We also raised two sons. We taught all our children about modesty. We taught them to be responsible for their decisions. We taught them to consider others before acting out. We had one moral standard and it applied to both boys and girls. I can boldly declare this truth because I’m not trying to sell books to disgruntled females.

Encouraging women doesn’t require discouraging men. The boys deserve as much kindness, respect, and truthfulness as the girls.

(1 Thessalonians 9:9) For God did not appoint us to suffer wrath but to receive salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ. He died for us so that, whether we are awake or asleep, we may live together with him. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.