Based on an article you can read here: https://awarenessact.com/10-signs-you-grew-up-with-a-toxic-parent-didnt-realize-it/
When the boy repeatedly cried, “Wolf,” when there was no wolf, he wasn’t just destroying his own credibility. He was making it harder for all the children who actually were facing wolves to be believed. That’s what happens when you cry, “Abuse!” when there is no abuse.
Whenever anyone criticizes you, disagrees with you, challenges you, or, worst of all, accuses you of sin; you believe you’ve been mistreated. Your cries of agony reach the ears of compassionate villagers who drop everything and run to assist you. While everyone is tending to you, the wolves devour the true victims left alone in town.
Something I’ve noticed about wolves is that they are not invisible. When a wolf attacks, there is no confusion or uncertainty about the cause of trauma. That’s not the case with your alleged abuse. The suffering in your past happened without you even noticing! You needed a therapist to tell you’ve been harmed. That’s not a wound that requires as much attention as you’re giving it.
“JOHN!!! YOU JERK!! Children are often abused and they don’t know it! They think the abuse is ‘normal.’ They need counseling to expose it so they can heal! YOU UNCARING JERK!!!”
Right. Those are the real victims I spoke about earlier. They suffer more than necessary because you’ve distracted the people who could be rescuing them. Kudos to you for thinking about them! You should do that more often!
Look, I know you like the attention that comes from telling your tale of woe. What you don’t seem to understand is that collecting sympathy from other people doesn’t make you a hero. Holding grudges against people isn’t righteous. Blaming your parents for the bad decisions you make as an adult is (you might want to sit down…) abusive.
Stop crying, “Wolf!” If you won’t do it for yourself, then do it for the people who are being devoured.
(John 16:33) “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
