“Never apologize for being sensitive,” is excellent advice for anyone who wants to be insufferable. If you are angling to be repugnant and repulsive, by all means lean into the idea that sensitivity and emotionalism are strengths.

Sensitivity and emotionalism are not super-powers. Sensitive people are wounded by the tiniest offenses. Emotional people collapse into a helpless heap when faced with the slightest opposition. If you feel “attacked” right now, then you’re proving the point.

Your friends won’t tell you this because they’re afraid of hurting your feelings. It is exhausting when you’re around. You are no fun at all. We’re all worried that our next word will devastate you. We’d all be happier if you took your ‘big heart’ and went home.

Now you’re going to start crying about being mistreated. You’ll accuse me of abusing you and then you’ll offer a heartfelt lecture on the importance of compassion. You expect me to make your feelings my first priority because you believe that’s “what Jesus would do.”

Ugh. It is exhausting when you’re around.

Your weakness is not a strength. You absolutely should apologize for making your loved ones walk on egg shells when they’re around you. Using your emotional instability to manipulate other people is not a sign of a ‘big heart.’ It’s a sign of a deceitful heart.

(Jeremiah 17:9) “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve.”